With conflicting information from friends and family members who mean well, the media, our prevailing culture, and even from some professionals, it can be incredibly stressful to know what to do when your son or daughter is struggling with substance use. What’s often not talked about, however, is potential conflict between you and your husband, wife, significant other or partner when trying to help your child. Substance use is a struggle that can put a strain on the entire family, and marriage is not excluded.
It’s not uncommon to disagree on ways to handle certain situations with a child. But it can feel like so much more is on the line when your child is using drugs or alcohol and needs support. Disagreements on communication, consequences, financial support, housing or other issues may leave you feeling like you’re not on the same page, and at a loss for how to move forward.
How do you cope with your partner not agreeing with you?
A first step is to find common ground. You both want your child to live a healthier, happier life. And you both want to do the best you can to get them there. So, try to collaborate. Have a conversation about everything you do agree on first. It’ll have the added benefit of making you both feel more connected before diving into your differences.